They Didn't Stand A Chance V

Blogwizer (BW) speaks with the families in this blog. Married couples (MC), as well as single mothers (SM), single fathers (SF), even the children (CH), and here's what they all have to say:

BW: What does it feel like not having your mom or dad around everyday?

CH: It's hard because the other kids ask about what your dad does, and you say, you don't know, because you don't. 

BW: So then you don't know what he does for work, or for fun, none if that right?

CH: Yep. 

BW: Do the other kids pick on you at school because your father is away from home?

CH: He's not away, he don't live with us. They don't say nothin' it was just sad for me when all the other kids said their dad's (were) with them and what they did, and I couldn't say nothin'.

BW: What do you think you would like most about having both parents at home?

CH: Someone to teach me things.

BW: Like what?

CH: How to understand better. 

BW: Understand better? What things?

CH: Football and mama. 

BW: It's very important to understand those things. How could your father help you understand your mother and football better? 

CH: (He could) Tell me why she cries sometimes and don't (doesn't) talk to me (during the crying). [Fighting back tears at this point, wishing a hug could cure the pain!]

BW: Does your mom ever say why she's crying, or say that it's your dad that makes her cry?

CH: I just know she works a lot and talks about the rent, and cooking. We don't have as much money. She don't talk about him at all. 

BW: How do you feel about your father? Do you think he is good or bad? 

CH: I don't know. I don't really know him. He's never around. 

BW: Does he send you letters, or call when he's not around?

CH: Nope. 

BW: Does he send you things for your birthday or holidays like Christmas?

CH: No. 

BW: How does that make you feel?

CH: I would like to have him teach me football. I don't need nothin' else. I do good in school, I ain't in no trouble, I (would) just like to have him to talk to. Sometimes, though, I like it with just me and mama. 

BW: You really like football, that's good. If you're glad your father is not there at times can't your mother practice with you? 

CH: I looove football! I'm gonna break Peyton Mannings records! Mama's ok, she don't watch me play, and don't practice with me. She's a girl, so I understand that part. I just wish my dad was here to teach me stuff like changing plays and how to get faster and stronger. Mama always cooks or says she's tired from working. My dad could practice with me when she cooked. But with him gone, I ain't got nobody to boss me around. 

BW: It's tough missing your dad, I wish that I could've talked with my dad before he died. I'm here if you ever need to talk hoss. I love ya. 

CH: I don't miss him, I just wish he was here, but I'm glad he's not sometimes. I love you too. How did your daddy die, was he old?

BW: He was sick and about my age. I didn't know how to miss him either. My mother never spoke much about my dad either. So perhaps we can help each other and help others like ourselves (you and me), in the future?

CH: You help me when you talk to me. You're like a big brother. You're nice. You're a good dad (referring to me and my children I believe).

BW: [Big lump in my throat, fighting with everything in me not to cry] Thanks hoss, you are a great young man, and hopefully you'll be an awesome dad one day too. Take care of your mama, and let me know if I can help. 

CH: Great, I need help with passing. Maybe you can come over and be Eric Decker one day? 

After much debate on why I would never play for the Broncos we agreed to be there for each other. 

His mother never bad mouths his dad, and for that I was grateful. No one wants anyone to remind them that a portion of them is faulty or worthless, especially a child. I'm a morale booster, not a morale buster. Regardless of whether or not he's present, he's still that boys father and that kid deserves better than to grow up thinking he's damaged because of a broken or damaged dad! Think (both parents) before you lash out. It's not just about you, you need to be mature enough to see how it affects your child. 

Peace to all, and I'm out. 

They Didn't Stand A Chance IV

Blogwizer (BW) speaks with the families in this blog. Married couples (MC), as well as single mothers (SM), single fathers (SF), even the children (CH), and here's what the married couple has to say: 

BW: What is the most difficult part of being a spouse with children?

MC: Our children are such a blessing and have added so much to our life that I guess honestly the hardest part of being a spouse with children is letting them grow up, giving them the space that they need to grow and become the people that they are meant to be. Being a mother is the greatest reward that I have ever received in my life.

BW: That's awesome! Can you expound on what rewards you are referring to?

MC: The rewards of seeing something that is part of me, go out into the world and make their parents proud. The small things they do everyday, like my son running by the store because he knew that we needed milk or eggs without our having to even ask him, or like my little girl going out and finding what some would consider a plain rock, but she gets it to be mommy's good luck pet rock, or the pictures that she draws for our fridge. The pride of knowing that they are the best things that I have ever made in this lifetime.

BW: Procreation is a wonderful gift! But the gift of those procreated can be costly. Food, shelter, college... do you see a dramatic change from when you were growing up, to now. What do you expect from your children, and what do you want for your children?

MC: The expenses as far as money goes is very hard. Clothes, shoes, food and a good education (are all expensive). The choice to home school (as well) is a steep cost, but then when you calculate the pros to the cons and know that you are creating a bond that is so deep, and that you can also teach your children about God without someone telling you that you cannot, and that you cannot pray with them, when you average out these costs that's when you know that the rewards are a lot bigger than the cost. I want my children to reach for the stars, I want them to stretch forward and use every gift that God has blessed them with. I want them to know that they are loved and supported without worry, and that they can dance like nobodies watching.

BW: Good stuff. When you are qualified to have home school, that is a blessing. If you were not qualified to teach them at home (and I know you are, you have a son in college), what would you do, or recommend?

MC: If I were not qualified to teach them myself, then I would work harder to place them into one of the fine Christian Schools that are close by. We have some fine facilities close by, and one in particular that I would strongly recommend. My belief, (in) God and the ability to share Him with my children would be at the top of my (priorities) list. And I'm not knocking the public school systems, I would just like to instill values into my children that are prevented in the public school system. And again, not saying that my kids are or will be any better than anyone else, but that I enjoy the closeness the bonding and the openness between parent-teacher and student.

I would recommend them (the local Christian schools) if someone were to ask my opinion. And I am more than happy to always help ya out!

BW: Alright... Again thank you fir letting me harass you for a few. I will stop harassing you now, and bid you farewell.Thanks for your time. 

MC: No harassing here, (I)was very glad to help out. God bless you and may angels stand watch over you!

BW: Thanks, you as well ma'am.

A special thanks to a very special group of friends... The final blog will come from the mouths of babes. Kids, do they say the darnedest things? We shall see...

They Didn't Stand A Chance III

Blogwizer (BW) speaks with the families in this blog. Married couples (MC), as well as single mothers (SM), single fathers (SF), even the children (CH), and here's what they all have to say:

BW: After reading the ladies post (because Blogwizer is a ladies first network), what say you as a single father, about the most difficult things in single parenting. 

SF: First of all, kudos to the single mom for not downing all men or the man that is not their for her children. She may have left him, or he could be a dead beat, but she didn't down him you know? 

Financially it is tough, but I have a great family. My children had their grandparents, and aunts and uncles. So Childcare wasn't a big issue for me, and I have great friends. I was fortunate. It's not as difficult for a man with boys, I could play ball, and help them with homework and hygiene, but I can't imagine having to put ribbons in hair, or talk to a teenage daughter about boys, or hygiene, or caterpillar to butterfly stages. Girls would be hard. 

BW: So what would you do if you had a little girl? I have one, but her mother would NEVER go a day without checking on her. They are close. So what would you do if you had a girl?

SF: What would you do if her mother wasn't close?!

BW: I asked you first, lol!

SF: What any smart man would do... Call my mother! If she wasn't here, I'd call my sister, if she wasn't here, I'd go to my go to girl. You know, my Google woman, my Ask Jeeves woman. 

BW: Nice, hahaha! Ok so what's most rewarding about having your children full time. 

SF: This sounds shallow, but I do things my way. If I want to read to them at night, I can. If I want to have Cheetos in bed with them, I eat Cheetos in bed. I don't have anyone telling me I can't. If I feed them junk food before meals sometimes, then I can get away with that. We watch lots of sports, and we play hard, but school comes first. They are respectful, good boys, and we have a great, and selfless bond. I love my boys. 

BW: That's what's up! Thanks meign. 

SW: You know it, thank you, hope school is good. I know who my counselor will be when he gets his degree.

BW: You sir are too kind!

They Didn't Stand a Chance II

 
Blogwizer (BW) speaks with the families in this blog. Married couples (MC), as well as single mothers (SM), single fathers (SF), even the children (CH), and here's what they all have to say:

BW: Single Mother what is the most difficult thing about being a single mom?

SM: The most difficult...Trying to be both parents when the other is not involved, when you have a son you have to remember to do things that he misses doing with his dad. Throwing football, teaching him the guy stuff he needs to know. Trying to understand what he is going through as a boy especially as he is entering the teen years. It's very difficult.

Having a daughter you have to understand she is missing that "daddy's girl love" that every lil' girl needs, and help her thru that, helping them to understand it is not their fault the father is not here anymore, I think that is why baby girl turned to sports, we all use to play as a family, all the time, its her comfort.

Then there is the trying to make it on one income, helping them with their homework, and making sure they do great in school, and finding the time between work and the activities they are involved in... the most rewarding would be.. getting to be there for it all, teaching them about God, right from wrong, and watching them grow and learn, it is well worth all the difficult things.

Seeing them smile as they make good grades, make that awesome play in whatever sports they're playing in. Tucking them in at night, saying prayers, and hearing them say I love you Mommy, and being there to help them deal with the difficult times, and answer all their questions.

Dad's up next...

They Didn't Stand A Chance

They Didn't Stand A Chance

They didn't stand a chance from the beginning, 

They didn't have a say.
They didn't have a ray of hope, good times thinning,
They didn't have a way.

They turned it all around, they were winning,
They made today a new day.

They have taken a stance, eliminated chance, 

They (with God) made a way.

What do Assad, Putin, and Sarin have in common?

What do Assad, Putin, and Sarin have in common? They're all full of hot stinky, cut straight from the turd air, or in plain simple terms, "gassy."

I was recently invited to Russia because Dennis Rodman was in Korea, and Russia requested that President Obama send someone entertaining, but not repulsive, so they got Sivart Pooknyw. I think my Russian friends thought that I was actually a Brown Russian with a name like Pooknyw. Little did they know it was Aquafina in that Smirnoff bottle, not raw fermented taters! No worries either way, this brother laughed with the best of them. Mr. Putin liked me well enough that he hung a picture of me in the CR. No! Not their conference room, but the newly named "Sivart Pooknyw Comedy Room."

Vladimir Putin says that America should not call itself "exceptional," and that our economy, and politics are in shambles and on a downward spiral. I should've reminded ol' Vlad, that we still have Cadillac, THE Corvette, Harley Davidson, and apple pie. America still has relations with Europe and Asia that allow us to import, Lexus, Benz, and Ferrari, and a host of other countries and businesses as far as trade relations are concerned. While Russia's luxury vehicles are still tanks. Plus whether anyone else wants to give us credit or not (and we are a bit spoiled in America now), but we are still land of the free, and home of the brave, because we have the biggest hearted people on the planet.

I am biased and I am not as well traveled as some, but I just don't see too many places being anymore beautiful than the country that I live in. I am not eager to leave regardless of circumstance. I also not eager to send our troops to war. I am going to post some links from LA Times columnists that share their opinions on war, and what would be at risk in Syria.

One reply to a column says: So if we have a rifle and we're sitting on a hill, and witness a guy killing kids at the park, do we just sit there? Or do we call 9-11 and wait?

I would want to make sure it wasn't the filming of a movie before I took my rifle to a park and drilled somebody! I'd want my facts straight, and I'd want to make certain that there was no way that I would harm anyone else in my act of shooting. I hear what he was saying. I don't believe that children should be a part of warfare at all, and to see those children suffering from gas poisoning is horrible. However, how much more horrible is it, for us to get involved and hurt innocent people ourselves just because someone had a suspicion, or because we were misled (reference the war in Iraq), again? I'm in favor of us allowing these terrorist to play like rival gangs, and let them battle to the death, and eliminate one another, so long as they do not involve the children. Win-win for Israel, the US, and the rest of the free world. Putin can sit proud and say that he saved the world, and Assad can say, thank you Jesus, I will not be the next Iraqi dictator dead, Damsad Insane. Peace, and happy reading.

http://touch.latimes.com/#story/la-oe-saltzman-syria-putin-doctrine-20130912/

http://touch.latimes.com/#section/-1/article/p2p-77362635/?related=true

http://touch.latimes.com/#section/-1/article/p2p-77366381/?related=true

Mad Props Monday

Mad Props Monday:

To dad's that aren't too macho, to post or openly say how much their children mean to them. This Mad Props Monday is for you.

For teachers like Jorge Lopez. You are not just a good father, but an inspiration to a whole new generation! I pray that you bless many classes to come as a teacher. You are a father figure to many that will never know their fathers, and a morale booster to those that do, but don't get the support they desire from home. I wore red for teachers like you today.

To friends that know how to treat you, because they treat you like you want to be treated. They can empathize with you, when it comes to the knowledge of being mistreated, they (Chubb Rock intro) treat you right. You already know who you are, and... that I love you!

Props to some really great clergymen in our county and adjacent counties. Pastor Jeremy, Pastor Brad, for the opportunities, and the words that I am undeserving of, thank you. I am more than grateful for you! You rock because of the Rock, and no I don't mean Mr. Johnson, although, he's a bad man!

To professionals that are not afraid to show you a glimpse of the person outside the office, inside the office. Thank you Hal Harrison, I truly hope you will be a judge in our county very soon! Well part of me at least, the other part of me says you are an excellent attorney, in fact too good, and I'd like to be able to call on you if the need ever arises again. Thank you sir, for all you do!

To directors that allow their actors and artists to grow, rather than limit them in their productions, I give you props! Andrew Gall, you are a class act sir, your response and understanding are greatly appreciated, and I am forever grateful. So anyone reading this, go see, "A Few Good Men." Scott Keel, Dan Clancy, and Jen Russ just replaced the faces of Tom Cruise, Jack Nicholson, and Demi Moore on my DVD cover. They are awesome leads, and are supported by some very special people as well. They are as talented as they are good looking, so reserve your seats now. A Few Good Men will run through September 7th.
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Last but certainly not least:
Props to my children, I am proud to say that if I haven't taught you anything else, I am glad to know that I have taught you how to love, because I not only see, when you all smile at me, I not only hear it when you laugh at me, I feel it everyday when you are near me.I love all of you!